*whips hair*
Yes, I went there…
The other day I posted on FB and Twitter:
“All women have hoe tendecies, but some just cover them up better than others.”
And I definitely got some feedback from that statement because when it comes to the ‘hoe’ word no woman wants to be labeled that, even if she is one. There are some women and even men that are still virgins and are waiting for marriage to engage in sex or they’ve only had 1 or 2 sex partners and that’s perfectly fine. But in the lives of many, we have put quite a few miles on our va jay jays but shhhh don’t tell anyone because we don’t want people to know.
Get into it…
Growing up you always hear that you shouldn’t date more than one man at a time, and you damn sure are not to sleep with the whole block and I totally agree. But the only problem with that first part is that if you only limit yourself to one person and you’re not technically committed to that man, you won’t have any guy to choose from-you won’t know what you want and don’t want. And you will probably end up being a married woman unfulfilled because you never had a chance to experience the different variety of men.
There may come a time that you may be dating a few guys but you only like two of them. And sure you’re a good girl with morals and your mom taught you well, and you have your Jesus speeches but you also have sexual desire. For instance, I was dating two guys and both were super cool. Both of the guys had great jobs, were well mannered and knew how to keep a smile on my face. And eventually I had sex with boo #1 and about 2 weeks later I had sex with boo #2. Guess, I was feeling a bit frisky… Now, I know you’re thinking oh hell naw. But really stuff like this happens. Is it a little hoe-like? Absolutely. But does it mean I’m a hoe? Absolutely Not. To think that you’re not going to ever sleep with two different guys within a few weeks of each other is unrealistic. Just keep living.
We meet all different people at different times. And sometimes we may meet a guy that is everything that we want, at that moment. He may dress nice, smell good cologne, have a decent job/career, and knows exactly how to make you blush-make you feel like a kid in the 3rd grade all over again when he looks at you. But he may be in a serious relationship with another chick and then you become the side-chick. [OOOOPPPP] By no means is the side chick ever cool but lets be real we all have been there in some capacity. For example, I got seriously involved with a guy that had a girl or a ‘situation’ as he referred to it (you’ll read more about it soon). And we were serious, I mean so serious you thought we were going to get married. Yes, he had two girlfriends that he spent time with, but as you know, the side chick never gets anything other than bullshit. Our relationship ended terribly and no matter how many times he was wrong, I got involved with a man that was already involved with someone. Is that hoe-like? Hell yeah! Does that make me a hoe? Depends on who you ask. But I’ll say NO.
The other day I wrote a post ‘Is It Really Ever Too Early To Have Sex?’ and it actually received a great response. Some women told me via social media that they’re married to the same guy that they had sex with the first couple of weeks of meeting. Others told me that they had terrible experiences when having sex too early, and then some women were like it just really depends on the situation. I totally understand all of these situations, as I have been put in a situation or two similar myself. For instance, I had a dude that I dated in college and on our very first date he told me, “I don’t believe in waiting months to fuck. So, if you got a problem then you might as well leave.” Immediately, I gasped and was like what? I had to gather my thoughts I never had any guy to tell me that…Not at all. Quite naturally I left but for some strange reason I couldn’t resist him and we ended up having sex weeks later and were in a relationship on and off for the next six years. Now giving my cookie to a guy after only a few weeks of knowing him was a little risky but its surely not a habit. Is that hoe-like? Absolutely. Does it mean I’m a hoe? Absolutely not.
All I’m saying is we all do some things that we wouldn’t normally do and even down others for doing it and exposing themselves. I’m not saying let every guy you meet taste your cookie or have sex with homeboys or the whole neighborhood, but I am saying life happens. And if you look closely at yourself, you may have hoe-like tendencies or at one point of time did. Just don’t be so quick to judge others.
